Love days like fathers day, birthdays too.. . when you take a moment or hopefully Lots of moments to think about that one person. Remembering all the ways you love them. Have you ever told them of their unique qualities that you love? You know. . . the thoughts that often run through your mind, but sometimes we forget to tell that person how highly we think of them. It's so great to take that time to honor your loved one, especially, when you can think of a new way to show how you appreciate them.
Today, I want to focus on "Dad," with Father's Day shortly ahead I think it's a good place to stop and focus. But, wait. . . not your Dad; this time I'd like to focus on our husbands. In many cases it can be easy to honor and show respect to our own Dad, maybe Grandpa, or show appreciatiion to other important men in our lives. But I would like to bring your focus to your husband. Your child(ren)'s daddy.
Unfortunately, and all to often, we (I) tend to treat the people under our own roof in a way we would never dream of treating a friend. How can some days be so wrenching that we treat our own family with an enormous, ugly. . . unacceptable attitude?
A friend, with a sweet bubbly personality, once stated --what I'd like to share with you-
-perfectly. I was talking with her and another lady, can't remember the conversation precisely but in some way or another, speaking about her husband. I don't recall all the words leading up to this comment, but I will never forget my friends response: With a huge smile over her face, she joyfully said. "How couldn't I forgive him, When Jesus Has Forgiven Me of So Much!"
This is what it's all about.
My challenge for you, is the same I am giving myself. Give your husband the gift of grace. This Father's Day I'm convinced you couldn't give him or your children a better gift. Not just on father's day, but will you choose this every day? I have been listening recently to what Jani Ortlund has to say. Her question, hit me Like a ton of bricks. And it was something like this, who will you be: Mrs. Law or Mrs. Grace?
What are you expecting from your husband right now? The one thing (or many things) that must change for "Things to get better." Even if he is wrong. (Which aren't we all in many ways?) Let's try to stop changing our husband(s). Then, let's begin looking to God to change ourself! I have found so often when I just NEED something to change in my husband, I find God really wanting me to change.
How can we show our husband more grace? Can I surrender my (many) expectations to God instead of looking to my husband to fulfill them? I think "Mrs. Law," so easily comes out of us, always trying to fix things with our special "Do and Don't lists." And we are so right!! Right?? Maybe. Yet if you are like me, we so often go about it the wrong way. Why do we feel the need to correct them, why not just love them, and give back to them the grace and forgiveness that we have received. If every bad thing we have ever done, is wiped clean through Jesus, how then can it be hard for us to forgive. Even if it's over and over. Forgiveness. Grace. Jesus gave. Let's give!!
Happy Father's Day to all the Daddies!!
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